“Grief is like a three-legged table,” he said, “The Earth isn’t stable anymore.” These poignant words struck me as I listened to Actor Liam Neeson open up to “60 Minutes” last Sunday about the loss of his wife, actress Natasha Richardson.
It was the first time Neeson has spoken publicly about his wife’s death in 2009. You may remember that she hit her head while skiing in Canada. Richardson said she felt fine, but died two days later after complaining of a headache.
He told 60 Minutes that he visits her grave often and plants her favorite flowers, daffodils and roses. Neeson also said he has been unable to part with her clothing. He said that grief still overwhelms him.
As I listened to this honest and moving account of Liam’s battle with grief, it reminded me of the loss of miscarriage. While we can’t plant a “favorite” flower, and there may be no clothes to part with, we live with the “three-legged table” that makes the earth feel unstable. In so many ways, grief gives us the clarity and empathy to reach out to anyone who is grieving…no matter the loss. I realized that we share a common, and unwanted bond- a collective understanding of the grip of loss and the pain that can overwhelm us. Let’s hope that we can also share our stength, acceptance and compassion when our fellow man is grieving.