Just Beyond the Waves: Help for the Storms of Life

Help for the Storms of LifeMy youngest daughter just had a birthday and we decided to celebrate by taking the family on a dolphin boat cruise. The boat goes  just beyond the waves that roll toward the beach, in search of friendly, fun-to-watch dolphins. We saw dozens of smooth, gray dolphins as they searched for food, swam with their babies, played, and even “surfed” in the wake behind our boat. We couldn’t stop smiling and taking tons of pictures and video of our new-found friends. It’s so amazing what you find just behind the waves.

My family has been facing difficult times during the past few months – like huge waves washing over us…at times knocking us off balance. The experience of discovering something wonderful just beyond the waves felt encouraging. It was a great reminder that good things are waiting behind the swirling water. Even the most ferocious storms come to an end, and the sun shines brightly again. If you’ve ever experienced a hurricane you know the most beautiful, sunny day happens the morning after the storm has passed.

It can be so tough to wait for trails and rough waters to pass us by. You may even find yourself looking for a life raft that can rescue you. When will help arrive? For me, I find my help in my faith. I find comfort in praying and remembering scriptures that give me hope. During these recent, difficult days I have thought about my favorite verse anytime I am feeling anxious or down,

” Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, because I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you and I will lift you up with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

These words give me comfort and remind me that I am not alone. If you are searching for rescue and hope, hold on to your faith. Find a pastor, rabbi, priest, church or trusted friend who can tell you more.

If you have never explored your faith or beliefs, you can find more at Everyday Answers.

No matter what you are facing, remember that just beyond the waves, something good is waiting. The sun will shine again.

Are You Feeling “Showered” By Grief or Addiction This Spring?

feeling rain of grief and addiction

Spring has sprung! You can see trees, flowers and plants beginning to awaken from their winter sleep. With spring always comes “showers.” While we know the rain is needed to nurture the flowers to come, it’s easy to become tired of the storms.

I’ve been going through a very stormy time in my life. My family and I have been dealing with difficulties on every front- job, family, health and many uncertainties. Facing this has reminded me how tough it can be to weather the storm- to stay calm and patient.

Are you feeling the pain of grief or addiction? Here are some simple reminders to help you navigate the spring rains:

  • Sleep. Sounds simple, but it can be hard to sleep, and to have quality sleep when you are facing stress and hardship. If you are not sleeping well, try cutting off electronics and screens an hour before bed. Read. Relax. Exercise. And if all else fails, get a doctor’s advice.
  • Eat. Taking good care of you is most important when you are going through tough times. Stress can cause you to overeat- stuff down your feelings with a hunk of chocolate cake or a party size bag of Doritos. Some find it difficult to eat at all. Pay attention to what you are eating- and “what’s eating you.”
  • Drink. Water. Hydrate yourself and give your body good things. This would not include drowning your sorrows with an entire bottle of wine. You may forget your pain for the night, but the morning hangover always comes. If you need help with moderation- get some!
  • Smile. Have fun. This can be hard to do when you are facing challenges. When life is coming at you from all directions, it can feel like the wrong time to relax. However, it can be just the boost you need. Go outside. Drive to the beach. Call a friend who makes you laugh. Pray. Do something you enjoy.

Finding it too tough to handle the rain on your own? Ask for help! Find a trusted friend, rabbi, priest or pastor and get the support you need. You don’t have to face the storm alone.

Waiting for the “flowers” to appear during the storms of spring can be draining. Doing simple things to take care of yourself will fill you with the strength you need to get there.

Have some tips to add? Leave them in the comments section!

Having a “Losing” Season? Give it Time

shot-clockFor sports fans everywhere, March is about brackets and basketball. Excited college fans, students, players, teams and coaches gear up and strive for the BIG win- the Final Four. Since only four teams make it to the elusive Final Four, only a select few teams end the season as “winners.” The others deal with the disappointment of a losing season.

No one wants to have a losing season…in basketball or in life. Sometimes we all have “seasons” in our lives when we feel like we just can’t win- and we can’t figure out what to do differently. Watching a team struggle through a losing season reminds me of our struggle with life’s difficulties and grief. We go through the motions each day, we wait to feel better, or to feel anything at all…and we just can’t “win.” Funny thing is…the solution for the basketball team is the same for our grief. The answer is…time. Time to leave the sting of our losses behind, time to “relearn” how do the simple things we used to love, time to get better, time to feel joy again. The way to “win” is to give it time.

Are you going through tough times right now? When you start feeling vulnerable, the key is to give it time and reach out for help. For me, my help comes from my faith. The more I rely on my faith, the better I begin to feel.

Pass the “time” by listening to positive music – it will uplift your spirits, increase your faith and bring you peace.

kloveLooking for a positive radio station? Check out K-Love. You can listen online, or look for a local station near you.

Give your body, mind and soul time to be well.

The Truth About Adversity: Can It Create Opportunity?

Ever heard of Aimee Mullins? I discovered her amazing story and TED Talk recently. Spend 21 minutes that can change your day…and even beyond. Watch her moving and inspirational TED Talk!

If you are dealing with adversity, this video is for YOU! Watch and then leave your comment. Let’s have a real conversation about tough times.